“Look in the mirror. Appreciate yourself. Celebrate your capacity for simple acts of generosity and gentleness.” – Chogyam Trungpa
Today I noticed this little yellow leaf had settled perfectly on my front porch’s potted plant when I got home from work. I was completely fascinated. It certainly didn’t look like this leaf had floated here randomly on some gust of fall wind. It looked like it carefully placed itself here in an attempt to pass itself off as one of the bigger, fancier leaves.
Strangely enough, self-acceptance is a theme that has continuously popped up in my world this week. And it’s not been a subtle message either. An entire issue of one of my favorite magazines that I bought this week is dedicated to the subject of “making friends with yourself.” Two of my favorite (and separate) sources for daily inspiration have delivered emails on self-compassion and worth this week. One of my favorite instagrammers has posted two photos about self-love this week and has blogged on the subject. Tweets, Facebook posts, pinterest pins… just to name a few.
I really hadn’t given much thought to my own self-worth in a long time prior to this. I mean, sure, I’ve had a few feelings of self-doubt and hurt feelings just like anyone else recently, but certainly nothing that rises to the level of a crisis. But this theme has bubbled up so many times this week that it’s tough to shrug off as an odd coincidence at this point. Clearly the universe has ideas on the subject and is trying to tell me something rather pressing. So I’m taking notice and accepting these messages as an opportunity for improvement.
As a place to start, here are Tiny Buddha’s ten steps towards self-acceptance and self-love (full article here):
1. Validate our feelings, “It’s okay to feel bad sometimes.”
2. Refrain from judging or placing negativity on our thoughts or feelings.
3. Give ourselves a little extra comfort and soothing.
4. Listen to and respect our inner experience.
5. Reassure ourselves that what we are experiencing will pass.
6. Remind ourselves of all the wonderful things that we are.
7. Be grateful for the little (and big) things in our lives.
8. Take action towards improving elements in our lives that negatively affect us.
9. Commit to our physical health—cut back on drinking, improve eating habits, and exercise regularly
10. Invest in our psychological/emotional/spiritual health.
You know, as pretty as my porch plant is, I thought the yellow leaf was lovely all by itself.