Every Now and Then

“It is not our job to toughen our children up to face a cruel and heartless world. It’s our job to raise children who will make the world a little less cruel and heartless.” – L. R. Knost, author


I first blogged about this inseparable couple almost six years ago, but we’d been observing them for years before that. We make a mental note every time we see them…walking briskly around any number of neighborhoods around town, hand in hand. It’s reassuring somehow to catch a glimpse of them. Like all is well in the world. We remark from time to time how hard it will be for the spouse left behind when the other passes — and will they be one of those couples who is so attached that they pass within hours of each other. We don’t like to think about it, but the conversation comes up every now and then when one of us remarks that we haven’t seen “the old couple around lately.” And it came up recently because none of us have seen them since the fall.



I got this text from Tanner this afternoon. I couldn’t help but become teary-eyed. And not just because I was relieved to know the couple was alive and well. I loved that my son noticed this and it was important enough for him to share it with me. I loved that, while my parenting skills have been stunningly imperfect, every now and then I get to see tangible evidence that I did something right. That some of my personal values and priorities have been instilled in my children — including a love for others and an awareness of the world around us. A desire to be in the world and not on it. I realized that, while both of my kids are tough as nails, they indeed are making the world a less cruel and heartless place.

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