If you’ve read this blog for a while, this photo might look familiar. It’s a favorite and I’ve used it before. I always seem to come back around to it. Its message never gets old. I also seem to seek this out when people or their behavior make me sad…which seems to be happening a little more than I care for as of late.
Is it really that difficult to just be kind? And if you can’t be kind, can you please not be hurtful?
This is frustrating to me because the answers should be so ridiculously simple. What good does it do anyone to be hurtful? Everyone suffers for it.
But I read an article today from Spirituality and Health called “How to Change the World: An Interview With Don Miguel Ruiz.” It’s not a lengthy read, but here’s the free prize inside:
“Changing the world is not about changing the secondary characters of your story. If you want to change the world, the way you do it is by changing the main character of your story. Then, just like magic, all the secondary characters will start changing. Your children will change because the message that you deliver to them will change. The message that you deliver to your wife, to your husband, will change. Your relationship with your friends will change. Perhaps more important, your relationship with yourself will change. When you change the message you deliver to yourself, you are happier―and just by being happier, the people who live around you also benefit.
Your effort is really for everyone because your joy is contagious. When you are happy, the people around you are happy, too, and it inspires them to change their own world.”
So I guess the way to counter the unkindness of others is to be responsible for my own kindness. Which, unfortunately, is easier said than done when feelings are hurt or I’m angry. It’s a lot easier to be kind when things are going swimmingly and everyone is on the same page. But it’s crucial. Because, as the photo states, in the end, only kindness matters.